Resilience & Tolerance

“When resilience turns to tolerance, that’s when you’ve crossed over to selflessness.”

Although traditional, cultural, societal, religious, spiritual, and even, psychology teachings advocate tolerance, especially in interactions and relationships; Theory of Self-Relativity considers tolerance, and especially long-term and chronic-tolerance to be detrimental for the Self.  Excessive resilience, which often turns to tolerance, and even sacrifice, is a reflection of a person completely giving up self-love and self-worth for others. By taking advantage of human empathy, as well as via shame and guilt feelings; through manmade stories and doctrines, tolerance and sacrifice are incorrectly and manipulatively portrayed as moral human attributes.

The boiling-frog-syndrome is a good example of how chronic negative-resilience often turns into tolerance.  This example is based on the premise that if a frog is suddenly put in boiling water, the frog will jump out; however, if the frog is put in a room temperature water and the water temperature is slowly brought up to a boil, the frog will not recognize or perceive the danger, and will eventually boil to death.  This example clearly indicates how chronic negative-resilience leads to tolerance, and how tolerance could have severe consequences in imbalanced relationships.