A relationship, in its most simple form of definitions means “the state of being connected”:
- The root word for relationship comes from the verb “to relate”, which means “having a sense or a state of being related”.
- The same root word of “to relate” is also the root word for “relative” which means “having a relation”.
- Therefore, we have a “relation-ship” with everything and everyone else hence we have a sense or a state of how we “relate” to everything and everyone else.
- When we have a relationship and when we relate with everything and everyone else, we are “relative” to everything and everyone else.
- And since we also relate to, have a relationship with and we are also relative with our own Self; therefore, we have “Self-Relativity” with our own Self and with everything and everyone else.
Theory of Self-Relativity defines “Self-Relativity” as “the interactions and relationships of the Self internally and externally with the Self and with everything and everyone else”.
Therefore, in order to have balance, harmony, equilibrium and quality relationships, we must first learn to have a self-aware and quality relationship with our own Self. We cannot replace what we are missing through others, we must fill the voids from within so that we can be complete on our own; because if we look to complete our Self externally, we will be entering relationships for the wrong reasons and such relationships will often have consequences which might not be constructive or beneficial for our Self.
It is better to not be in a relationship than to be in a relationship for the wrong reasons.
We live our life in relationships, from the time we are conceived to the minute that we die. Be it a relationship in our mother’s womb from the time of our conception or to the relationship with the doctor or family members by our bedside at the time of our death, and all other relationships in between; we are continuously coexisting in relationships. Even when alone at night, during our sleep or during any other form of isolation we are in a relationship with our inner-self and in relationship with our thoughts and feelings; therefore, relationships are an integral component of our “Self-Relativity”.
If we don’t know how to have a healthy self-relationship, we will not know how to have healthy interactions and relationships with others. In order for us to be able to have healthy and strong relationships with others; we must first be complete on our own hence the reason why Theory of Self-Relativity considers “Complementary; not Completing” as one of its 10 Commandments for self-improvement.
Sensationalistic popular phrases such as “you complete me” or “looking for love” are examples of how incorrectly we have been approaching our relationships; be it business or personal ones. In order to have healthy and strong relationships we must be complete on our own and other-people or other-things should only add to our completeness so that in case others are not in our lives anymore, we can still be complete and move forward in our lives. When we learn to enter relationships as a complete individual, we will then have a relationship that is based on compatibility and not based on neediness. When relationships are complementary and not completing, such relationships will inherently become additive and not deductive.