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January 28, 2022Arguments
March 6, 2022Only apologize because you know you negatively impacted another person; not because you hurt someone’s feelings.
In a truly complementary and non-egotistical relationship, an apology should only be given to represent how much the apologizer values the other person and the relationship. Therefore, apologies should only be given if the apologizer actually acted in a factually incorrect manner and not as a means of one-sidedly and unfairly trying to preserve the relationship, just because the other person felt hurt or disrespected. An apology is hypocritically over-popularized and over-utilized in society as a means of prioritizing others over one’s self. Apologies shouldn’t be handed out like candy just to make someone else who is in the wrong feel good, or in order to preserve a relationship unilaterally. An apology must only be offered as a means of valuing the other person enough to acknowledge one’s own mistake.
A person who is complete would not need someone else’s apology to move forward. When a complete person accepts to move forward in a relationship with someone else who apologizes voluntarily, acceptance is the key to moving forward, not the apology. Furthermore, when one doesn’t need apology to continue a relationship; one wouldn’t have the need to forgive either. As stated in Theory of Self-Relativity:
Forgiveness is self-serving; acceptance is liberating.