Trust

Trust is not a feeling, a mindset or an attitude. Trust is a skill that is the result of self-confidence.

In order to have trust and to be able to trust, we must first learn to develop and grow our own self-trust. Because when we know that no matter how challenging a situation, or a person might be, we can handle them; we will then be relying on our own self and on our own knowledge and experience to deal with them. Therefore, just like self-confidence, trust is a skill.

As discussed, Theory of Self-Relativity recognizes self-confidence as a skill because confidence is achieved via the acquisition of knowledge and experience. Just as confidence is the byproduct of “true” self-improvement which could only be achieved when we deal with reality as is and not as we want reality to be; trust is the byproduct of self-confidence. When we minimize emotional-thinking and when we deal with reality based on factual-thinking; we subsequently minimize the chances of us making mistakes and or clashing with reality. When we use our knowledge and experience to deal with reality; we will subsequently make better decision and have more favorable outcomes. Such track-record increases our self-confidence and in-turn, it increases our self-trust. When we increase our self-reliance and self-confidence, we become less reliant on others which means we have less reason to not trust others. If and when someone is being deceitful with us, we can have the confidence to simply not deal with them.