Be your Thoughts

“Feel your feelings, don’t become your feelings; understand your thoughts, become your thoughts.”

Many incorrectly believe and misunderstand that if we separate feelings and thoughts from each other, we are engaging in some kind of ideological tribalism. In recent times, some are either attempting to protect emotions and are incorrectly portrayed as being empathetic; and others try to look for facts regardless of theirs or others’ emotions, and are being categorized as insensitive. When basic macro human factors such as feelings and thoughts are viewed and fallaciously categorized as binary characteristics of being good or bad, that is when our existence becomes nothing but an ideological war.

All feelings are valid; however, validity does not indicate value. This is why Theory of Self-Relativity advocates and teaches what it has termed as factual-thinking. Factual-thinking is best achieved via Theory of Self-Relativity’s “Cognitive-Cognition-Technique.” The Cognitive-Cognition-Technique teaches how to use the awareness of our emotions to identify their underlying causal-thoughts for factuality. The Cognitive-Cognition-Technique teaches how to combine emotional-intelligence (awareness of emotions) with thought-management (awareness and understanding of thoughts) so that we can become aware of our thoughts that are causing our emotions; at the fundamental level of each individual-thought. If our thought is factually valid, then our emotion is valid; therefore, we proceed to action. However, if our emotion is not supported by a factual-thought, we either continue looking for the supportive fact without taking major action; or we dismiss the thought, and in-turn, we eliminate our feeling.

Factual-thinking does not mean being like a robot and not caring about our feelings. On the contrary, factual-thinking allows us to objectively get in touch with our thoughts and feelings to ensure that we are dealing with reality as reality is; and not as we want reality to be. When we learn factual-thinking, we will become less biased, because our thoughts and emotions will be guided by facts, not by emotions or ideological-principles. This is why one of the most significant original phrases of Theory of Self-Relativity states:

“I think…Therefore I feel…Therefore I am”