Selflessness

Selflessness and self-sacrifice is not righteous; it’s self-abuse.

Being kind, empathetic and compassionate is very different than being self-sacrificial and selfless. The word selfless clearly states being self “less” which means not having any self-identity and sense of self and to be focused on worrying and being good to others at the expense of one’s own self.

Selflessness is the main cause of becoming reliant and dependent on others and such reliance and dependency often causes the selfless to be disrespected, controlled and/or even abused. If you want to be good to others, first learn to be good to your own self and be good and kind to others only if you can do so without cutting from your own self.

Empathy and compassion should be bilateral and should not be deductive from one person to the other. If acts of kindness, empathy and compassion become deductive, someone is going to lose in the long run. This is how people become codependents and people-pleasers and get disabled from improving their own lives.

Have self-empathy and self-compassion by improving your own self so that when you have and give empathy and compassion for others, you are not doing so at the expense of your “Self”.