Closure

“The need for closure is self-serving; acceptance is liberating.”

As discussed in my previous posts in the lineup of subjective emotional needs which do not factually have any true influence in the outcome of our relativities with life and reality; we often concoct mental blocks by requiring a resolution to an outcome that we have no control over, so that we can have the ability to move forward.

Previous examples were the need for “Forgiveness” and the need for constant “Gratitude”. Just as in case of forgiveness and gratitude neither are unnecessary mental states because they are self-serving; similarly, the need for closure is self-serving and if we cannot reach closure, such a self-made need can become debilitating.

Many who go through emotional difficulties that involves others but do not have control over the outcomes such as I did a few weeks ago with my father’s passing; constantly feel the need for closure by trying to find a reason and purpose as to why the difficult situation happened and such need for closure is commonly reliant on others or external-factors providing the solution. Many things that we want to find closure for have no reason nor purpose therefore there could never be a final answer which will provide closure; hence, this need to reach closure in many situations such as death of a loved one whereby a purpose or a reason is unavailable, or finding closure in a difficult relationship breakup whereby the other person will not give closure, ends up debilitating the person from moving forward.

This is why awareness, understanding and acceptance of the facts and circumstances of a situation is key to moving forward from a difficulty, not creating a need to achieve resolution for situations which have no reason or purpose to be resolved.