Discommunication

“Discommunication: The punitive act of discontinuing communication with someone in order to signal disapproval and to maintain control.”

Discommunication is a term coined by “Theory of Self-Relativity” which describes the shortcomings of the concept of silent-treatment in dealing with difficult, emotional, and toxic people. While silent-treatment is commonly described as “a refusal to talk to someone after an argument or disagreement”; discommunication is an intentional and abusive passive-aggressive form of disengagement in order to punish and control someone, especially if the target is reliant and dependent on the discommunicator.

Discommunication creates severe worry, anxiety, and stress, and, it throws the person at the receiving end of discommunication in a panicked tailspin, trying to find ways and means of how to reestablish communication back with the discommunicator, who in reality, is not interested in opening the communication channels back up. Because, the discommunicator wants to punish and control the target by preoccupying and distracting target’s mind via cognitive-dissonance, confusion, and panic.

Discommunication is commonly deployed in high-conflict and controlling relationships such as the ones with narcissists and borderlines.

This is why “Theory of Self-Relativity” designates “Dependency & Reliance” as one of the 10-Enemies of self-improvement, because when others have control over us, they can manipulate and influence our life to their desire and liking.