Personal-Attacks

“Personal-attacks; the only refuge of a weak-person with no answers or arguments.”

Ad-Hominem: Is a logical-fallacy in the form of personal-attack strategy that uses blame-shifting, deflection, rabbit-holing and gaslighting in order to avoid challenging and/or arguing the substance of the topic in discussion and instead attacking the character, motive, or other attributes of the person in the argument. 

Ad-hominem is common in toxic-relationships such as dealing with bullies, jealous and most importantly with insecure people.  Hence the reason why ad-hominem is common in relationships with personality-disordered individuals such as narcissists and BPD where gaslighting and crazy-making are common occurrences.  For example, instead of discussing why the partner in a relationship cheated; when asked, the cheater attacks the cheated by saying “stop eating when you’re talking to me; can’t you see how much weight you’ve gained!”

Hence the reason why in order to avoid personal-attacks we must learn to live our life without “Dependency & Reliance” on others. But if we must deal with aforementioned-type individuals, we must think factually and have our facts, knowledge and experience so that we could have the confidence to prevent these people from rabbit-holing the conversation.