Peptalk

“Unrealistic peptalk is the perfect setup for hopelessness and failure.”

Empty-motivation, positive-thinking and emotional-reasoning are the primary contributors that enable us to lie to our Self; hence the reason Theory of Self Relativity categorizes “Self-Deception” as one of its 10-Enemies of self-improvement.

We often think things and we do things because we want to feel good; not because they are good for us.

The truth is often uncomfortable and when forced to face the dislikeable-truth, our emotional tendency is to ignore, deny and deflect in order to avoid getting in touch with the dislikable-truth and to create, support and preserve the preferred thoughts that make us feel good. We ignore, deny and even attack the truth or the messenger because the truth does not match our preferred feel-good perspective; even though that perspective might be incorrect, fallacious and nonfactual.

This need to avoid pain, to feel good, or at the minimum, to feel less-bad; is the main cause of our bad decisions, our incorrect actions and our inability to change and improve. This is why “Factual-Thinking” is the only way for us to minimize emotional-reasoning and to get in sync with how reality is and not how we want reality to be.